What's the saying: "be careful what you wish for"? You may recall that at the end of October I posted a blog about the fact that I could literally smell change in the air. Then, two weeks later, because the unemployment situation is kicking everyone's ass at the moment, I was suddenly moving house. I talk about the whys and wherefores in episode 13, 'Good Will Hunter', which was recorded right in the midst of it all. And because of the chaos, it ended up being one of the most candid, off-the-cuff and unvarnished podcasts yet. I finally feel like I've settled into this gig and am more able to experiment and allow myself to be truly spontaneous and vulnerable. While the story I shared (narrated), was a story I'd shared in print a decade ago, the emotions really, REALLY hit me, when reading it. I was really taken aback just how immersive the experience was for me. It was tempting to collect myself and re-record the emotional bits, but I preferred to see this experience as a gift to be shared. I don't have a huge following but some folx have followed from the very beginning - every step of the way - so, thinking about it that way, we've been in a relationship for six months now. It's ok to share a few tears. Dang it all to heck, (pardon my French) it's gotta be expected by now!
Is it just me, or does it feel a little bit like there's change a-coming? I'm the perennial optimist even in the blurst of times...and even though things look pretty bloody bleak, I can't help but feel that those whom have felt like they have been pissing in the wind for ages...are finally being given a voice. Which ever way the mop flops next week in the US, there's going to be trouble and that starts with T and that rhymes with B and that stands for Black Lives Matter. The Supreme Court will change, yes but #MeToo isn't going anywhere. In fact, the organisation has just had a reboot to celebrate it's third anniversary. Get in amongst it! When I open up my social media accounts there is even news about countries OTHER THAN THE FUCKING U.S. because of the ability we have for curating our own sources of information, Social media might have our depleted and thirsty egos in the palm of it's hand, but if we remember we still have independence of thought, we can stop being lazy c*nts and search for truth. No one will spoon-feed it to you. Having said that, if you follow me on instagram and FB I'll definitely give you the benefit of my resources.
WE CAN'T JUST SIT BACK AND LET UNCLE RUPERT DO OUR THINKING FOR US!
Oh yes, my belly be lit. I'm not only sensing changes in the world without, I am feeling some changes from the world within. Glimpses of joy and a genuine sense of accomplishment is starting to go hand in hand with my sense of purpose. I'm finding my groove, you might say.
I'm coming up to my 9th episode! Nine is my favourite number as it happens. It's the number of UNIVERSAL LOVE, nawwww!
This current series – IXNAY ON THE INARY-BAY has been an interesting journey. It's funny cos, when I started, I was all about my own BISEXUAL AGENDA (it's kinda like The Gay Agenda, but with a bit less glitter). It was also about cutting my teeth as an interviewer. So basically it was all about ME! ME! ME!
Speaking of me....As you know, to make it a bit easier on myself I roped my son into my first interview – and we chatted about our different experiences in coming out as Bi, given our gender I.Ds and our generational divide. The feedback from that has been awesome. It was followed last week, with an interview with my friend Jessie who identifies as bisexual and as non-binary. I expected that chat to be illuminating but I never factored in just how much it would immerse me in the complex topic of gender. But Jess really got me thinkin!
Happy Bisexual Pride Week!
Like the title? I'm all about 'greater than two'. Because FUCK THE BINARY that's why. When I first decided I would be brave enough to produce my own podcast, there were a few topics ready and waiting to burst out of me - like an orgasm. Unsurprisingly, my first series "2020 an Orgasmic Oddity" was top of the list. A very close second was the topic of bisexuality.
If you identify as straight or gay, ask yourself, how many people do you know are "out and proud" bisexuals? Now compare that list to out and proud homosexuals? Now absorb the fact that, there are actually more bisexuals in the world, than there are homosexuals.
So, if this is really the case, you might be wondering: why are bisexuals less "visible"? Believe me, as a bisexual, I've wondered this a lot.
OMG it's nearly the end of August.
What even is 2020? The podcast has been out and proud for two whole months now and there are FIVE episodes in the ether. Ep 5 is the first in a TWO PART series "A SLIP OF THE TONGUE".
Part A: "WHAT'S IN A KISS?" OK, yes, we're still sexing it up for the time being - because we kind of ended the orgasm talk at the 'beginning'.
The fact is, because 2020 an Orgasmic Oddity (eps 1-4)ended with us focussing on the Vagus Nervous System and how it connects our brains to the pleasurable experiences available to us in the region of the face and upper body (from facial expressions and tactile sensations via lips, mouth, tongue and throat - especially through vocalising)which illuminates all other erotically responsive parts of the body - thereby opening up our concept of where and how orgasms are actually derived.
...and so, after I got all that off my chest, I figured, we may as well linger here and make out for a bit.
I'm kinda sad...
...But also happy that all four epsiodes of 2020 An Orgasmic Oddity have been released into the wild! Obviously this won't be the last time I discuss Orgasm, but this series was specifically aimed at dispelling myths and misconceptions. Not all episodes of the podcast will take the same form as this series did. And not all future podcasts will be 'parts of a series'. But the topic of Orgasm certainly deserved special treatment. I also said at the end of episode 4, that I'd publish some slick vulva/vagina diagrams for your edificiation. Click 'read more', to find them at the bottom of this article.
See, this is the thing.
When I decided to write and record a podcast about ways for women to become more sexually empowered, I knew that I had to do a lot more than suggest the best vibrator, point to the clitoris and say THERE YOU GO - SORTED! My podcast series 2020 An Orgasmic Oddity is a deliberately elaborate journey, because our knowledge about women's sexuality is not only still so stupidly new - we have to overcome a lot of pre-programming before we even get started on relaxing into our bodies to allow natural, organic sexual responses to HAPPEN without the impediments of hang-ups, shame, guilt and low self-esteem concerns. Episode three takes us WAYYYY back, to where it all started. Where we all started. Conception and evolution. *Listen to episodes 1&2 to give you proper context...and then enjoy the episode that gave me the most personal joy to research and compile. I mean, come on...look at that picture!
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202O AN ORGASMIC ODDITY: EPISODE TWO IS OUT NOW!
We resume the Orgasm Conversation contemplating the concept of 'Authentic Sexuality' What would women's approach to their orgasmic entitlement be, if religion and oppression did not burden female sexuality with shame, ignorance and fear? How much more empowered (and orgasmic) would women feel, if were never ever vilified or victimised merely for enjoying sex? How much has prudishness and double standards held women back from their true potential? What the heck is the deal with the remedial effort made thus far by medical and psychological research in helping people to understand how a woman's body is actually designed?
What has this got to do with certain iconic SCI-FI films of the 60s & 90s?
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THIS IS GROUND CONTROL TO...MAJOR ANXIETY...
OK, so, retro-spoiler alert...what I didn't mention last time, is that Ep One is LIVE! You can listen NOW on all the platforms here: The Eloquent in the Room Links. I've been sharing it with a test audience since May 26.
As I said previously, I took time out to reflect and held back from promoting myself out of respect for #blacklivesmatter. But the time has come to move forward.
Hey world... I'VE MADE A THING!
I would like to acknowledge the Gadigal of the Eora Nation, the traditional custodians of this land and pay my respects to the Elders both past and present.
1. Strap in. This is a long one. 2. My media bio is on the 'about' page.
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Hello and welcome!
Straight off the bat, let me say that I didn't think I'd end up building another blog website. At the end of 2017, in a fit of pique, I erased my previous blog “Inside Rose" which I'd started seven years previously. At around the same time, three things happened in quick succession: Trump landed in the Whitehouse, Harvey Weinstein was charged for multiple sexual assaults and The Dumpster Rape Case hit the headlines. Consequently, #Metoo happened, and, because I am a member of that not-so-exclusive global community, it was an extremely triggering time. I wasn't quite prepared for the debilitating impact it would have on me. It's such a cliché to whine about being 'an empath', but the feeling of carrying everyone's collective pain - is very real. Then at the beginning of 2018, I had a major health scare, which - out of habit - I swept under the carpet, so as not to worry my family.
But, about a year later, I started to unravel.