I'm kinda sad...
...But also happy that all four epsiodes of 2020 An Orgasmic Oddity have been released into the wild! Obviously this won't be the last time I discuss Orgasm, but this series was specifically aimed at dispelling myths and misconceptions. Not all episodes of the podcast will take the same form as this series did. And not all future podcasts will be 'parts of a series'. But the topic of Orgasm certainly deserved special treatment. I also said at the end of episode 4, that I'd publish some slick vulva/vagina diagrams for your edificiation. Click 'read more', to find them at the bottom of this article.
If you have not listened to the podcast, STOP READING AND GO LISTEN. As I stated emphatically in episode one, there's so much more to unlocking a woman's orgasmic potential, than merely focusing on one specific part (of one specific part) of her anatomy. That's just the tip of the iceberg. A tip with a gazillion nerve endings, sure, but while the anatomical misinformation, biological myths and patriarchally driven misunderstandings have been selling a lot of vibrators over the decades, FEMALE ORGASM STATISTICS DID NOT CHANGE.
So plug in to the podcast if you really want to go DEEP - because diagrams alone do not provide nearly enough information about the workings of a women's mind and body.
NO MORE SPOILERS: The sum total of the four podcasts adds up to about 2.5 hours of your life that could literally change your attitude about yours or your partner's body. (*Please contact me for transcripts if you are hearing-impaired)
While most of the podcast series was derived from my own resources, I also used a couple of external references as mentioned below.
The Little Red School Book - Soren Hansen & Jesper Jenson (translated into English in 1972
Raising the Skirt – The Unsung Power of the Vagina, by Catherine Blackledge (mentioned in some detail in Episode 3 and briefly in 4)
The Naked Ape – Desmond Morris (ep 3)
GOOGLE - Google the phrase "Orgasm Gap" to find dozens of articles which quote Statistics gleaned from an American Survey conducted in 2016, which highlights disparityin the consistency of orgasms experienced by men and women, during heterosexual sexual encounters. (Not many of these articles actually offer much in the way of solutions).
**The following sources were not actually used specifically in the podcast, however, I do recommend them for people wanting expand their field of vision and thought processes when it comes to orgasm and anatomy.
***The underlined titles are direct links. (I told you I was a giver.)
The BBC documentary "100 Vaginas" by photographer Laura Dodsworth is a gloriously detailed account of not only vulva diversity, but also ALL women's life experiences: puberty, menstruation, masturbation, orgasm, childbirth and includes transgender and non binary voices, as well as the experiences of women who have experienced female genital mutilation. It is quiet simply, must-see TV. (Currently available in Australian via SBS on demand).
Vagina Vérité is a website devoted to womxn's 'bodylife' experiences. It is composed and curated by the thought-provokingly curious New Yorker, Alexandra Jacoby.
My new favourite SEX ED teacher on YouTube. Authoritative, non judgemental, compassionate, responsible and funny. I'm a FAN.
Censorship and the Vulva
About a decade ago, ABC TV (Australia) had a TV show called Hungry Beast. This episode mentioned how print magazine censorship caused the over use of digital photoshopping to 'censor' the authentic appearance of women's vulva (airbrushing out genital details, such as inner labia). CW: the doco is graphic, but informative.
The Clitoral Truth 2nd edition by Rebecca Chalker.
TCT covers topics of interest to many women and their partners, but the heart of the book is "A Walking Tour Through the Clitoris" which that details, by Rebecca's count 18 distinct parts (standard anatomy books often leave out at least one and sometimes more). You don't need to memorize the names of all of them, but it is enormously helpful to see how this powerful organ system creates pleasure and orgasm.
The 20 MINUTE MYTH
As mentioned in Ep 2, I have known for a very long time that there is no prescription for the amount of time it takes women to come, but this article by sex researcher Suzannah Weiss is totally comprehensive. Reading this about two years ago, really inspired me to put my podcast together and call bullshit on EVERYTHING. It was just so refreshing and so cathartic to see this validation for all the BULLSHIT being circulated, based on - what I suspected to be nothing - but this is PROOF!
NB: I DONT SHARE ANY OF THESE WITH AN AGENDA. The Eloquent in the Room is here to be a free resource, and it's my baby. So feature things that I truly believe in and am inspired by. Please contact me if you have any questions, suggestions for referrences you'd like to see included.
The bulk of the information presented in 2020 An Orgasmic Oddity was the fruit of my own llife experiences and while some found that statistical research backed me up occasionally, there is still a lot of things missing from our knowledge base.
Please follow my social media pages (*facebook, instagram) for updates.
"An Eloquent Guide to Female Pleasure" will be available in downloadable form soon (TBA).
As for all the groovy info about BONOBOS. I encourage you to put that word into your search engine and lose an hour or two falling in love with these wonderful creatures.
Next up on the podcast...A SLIP OF THE TONGUE PART A - WHAT'S IN A KISS? OUT NOW
*Picture credit to The Vulva Gallery on Instagram for the illustrations. Not sure where the 3D image originated.